Shadow Y Luz

They say love is blind, and as someone who literally is, I can confirm it is true. Cute, right? The butterflies, the dopamine, the bad decisions wrapped in candlelight- so you ignore the red flags because they look more like festive streamers when you’re smitten. Love has a way of blurring the edges, smoothing over the rough patches and whispering, “We’re different, we can beat the odds!”

Fast forward a few years and you’re Googling, “how much divorce cost,” at 2:00 AM, in your underwear while you shove ice-cream and Cheetos in your mouth hoping it will fill the void that has become your heart. The honeymoon has ended and your delicate bubble has burst. Those cute little qwerks- yup, they’ve turned into weapons. Suddenly you begin keeping score of who unloaded the dishwasher last. You are now opponents instead of partners. Divorce is now brightly glowing in neon, it has lazer surgery and a magnifying glass.

As a couples Therapist, and as someone who literally cannot see- I get to see the train crash up close. People come into my office holding their relationship together with layers of duct tape and denial. Some couples sincerely want to mend their relationship, others are just there because their spouse dragged them and yes, some are there so I can take their side. Here’s the kicker, you’re going to get a close up view on the things you didn’t want to see.

Here is the dark truth,

• *Blind love doesn’t protect you, it just delays the crash

• *Counseling is not a Hallmark movie, sometimes it’s just two people deciding who keeps the dog

• *Divorce is a clarity bomb, it blows up the illusions and leaves you sorting through the rubbles of reality

• *Couples therapy is not your magical solution, it’s a courtroom with nicer chairs where I hold up the mirror and force you to acknowledge the things you pretend not to see

As a blind Therapist, I have the unique perspective that love is not just blind, it’s deaf and mute too. If you’re in a relationship that is struggling, don’t wait- sit in the discomfort, ask the hard questions and seek help now. The foundation may be cracked, but the house can still be salvaged.

Because love may be blind, but divorce is 20/20 outfitted with night vision goggles, a sniper scope and receipts.